The 2021 schedule of workshops has been influenced by the Coronavirus and travel restrictions. If the course you were hoping to go to is postponed, there is still help! Marsha’s new book, Anxious Eaters, Anxious Mealtimes: Practical and Compassionate Strategies for Mealtime Peace is NOW available through Archway Publishers (click here).
The Grasshopper Story (excerpt from Anxious Eaters, Anxious Mealtimes)
I would like to share a family story that helped me understand how worried eaters might feel when they are trying a new food.
When my sons were ten and thirteen we traveled to Oaxaca, Mexico to study Spanish for a month in an immersion program. We lived and ate with a local family. We were served absolutely delicious food for the entire month and on our last day, our hostess went to the mercado and brought home a surprise. “What is it?”, we asked in our newly emerging Spanish. Her response was “chapulinas”. We had to look up the word in our Spanish dictionary as she could not translate it into English. It was grasshoppers, yes, really, grasshoppers.
We wanted to be polite. We wanted to appreciate our surprise, but grasshoppers??! Really?!. So, since my children looked at me as if to say “Mom, YOU are going FIRST”, I started checking them out. First off, they were dead. That seemed like a good start as I had read that in some parts of the world people eat live bugs. Next, they obviously smelled like garlic and I like garlic. However, the very large bowl of grasshoppers was all parts, head parts, body parts, leg parts, antenna parts…parts! Now I began to seriously get worried. I asked our hostess, “how do we eat them”? She demonstrated how she piled some guacamole on a flour tortilla and then put on a handful of them, yes, a handful of parts, folded the tortilla and ate the delicacy! All eyes were on me. It was my turn to eat grasshoppers.
I took a tortilla, which I like, and put on LOTS of guacamole. Then I bravely felt one little “part,” with my fingertips, put it on the pile of guacamole, folded it and ate it. My mouth felt a tiny little crunch, but I expected a crunch because it had “crunched between my fingers”. Everyone giggled, but I was proud I did not embarrass myself by gagging. But, the trying was not over. This was not a little snack for the gringo family, it was LUNCH. So, by my fourth one, I still had a lot of guacamole, but I had a whole cluster of parts. They did not taste particularly bad or good as my generous mounds of guacamole dominated the flavor but they were noticeably crunchy in the center of the mouthful. We all lived through this experience with lots of laughter and photos.
I realized later that I had just experienced being a worried eater and I naturally did the things we do to help our worried eater friends. First, I looked at the new food, and asked about it. I smelled it and could relate to a smell that I already liked (garlic). I watched someone else eating it. I felt it with my fingers while preparing it. I got to try it at my own pace with lots of guacamole and tortilla initially to camouflage the worrisome taste and texture. I added a little more of the worrisome food at my pace and I fed it to myself. It was clear to me that if someone else had put a pile of grasshoppers on a spoon and tried to FEED ME, I would have gagged or vomited and it would have been an overall very bad experience.
Because I was able to go at my own pace, I ended up having a good time (even though grasshoppers may never end up on my favorite food list!).
We need to respect the worry when children are anxious about trying new foods. We need to help them learn something about the new food ahead of time through watching us and through all their senses and absolutely let them go at their pace. We now remind parents of worried eaters that they might consider every new food they offer their child to be a grasshopper and new food offering may well be easier! Consider everything is a grasshopper to a worried eater.
Throughout this book we will use the grasshopper story as a reference in our strategies for support of children worried about trying new foods.
Marsha Dunn Klein
And, if you like the idea of Grasshopper Magnets in sets of 10, 25 and 50 (or more), they are now available by making a donation to Nourish, the 501(c)3 non-profit Marsha co-founded whose mission is to provide family and community support for children in Southern Arizona who have feeding challenges. We provide direct service funding for feeding therapy and nutrition when these services are not otherwise covered by insurance. We provide specialized feeding equipment. We provide community outreach and education to our local feeding providers through courses, mentorships and Lunch and Learns. Check us out. www.nourishaz.org